37 Men Show Us What Real Men’s Activists Look Like – Mic

Okay, this is probably on several other blogs today, and hopefully will end up on many, many more before the day is out.

In a word…YYYAAAYYYY!

Thank you, real men, for standing with us! 

http://m.policymic.com/articles/90079/36-men-show-us-what-real-men-s-activists-look-like

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No Means No!

Reblogged from the excellent Suszie81’s blog.

Note the disgusting excerpt from Twitter she included. 😦

Suzie Speaks

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When I was at University I worked at a local bar that was about ten minutes walk away from the apartment that I lived in. One Saturday afternoon I was on my way to a shift that started at 4.00pm. I was wearing a baggy blue checked shirt with the logo of the bar on it, long black trousers and a sturdy pair of black boots. I wasn’t wearing any make-up, my hair was tied up and I was minding my own business. Suddenly, I heard a man shout:

“Oi! Sexy! Where are you going?”

I turned around, thinking it was one of my friends. I didn’t recognise this man or his friend and so I turned around and carried on walking.

“Aww, don’t walk away! Where are you going? Give me your number!”

I ignored him, but the sound of his voice didn’t get any quieter. They were obviously…

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Happy Being Heathen – A World of Pain

This one particular reblog is not through a WodPress site, so you can’t use that handy little Follow widget if you want to subscribe.

That aside, I came across Adam’s site while fishing through the Community Pool last week (he was commenting), and I’m so happy to have crossed paths with him!  The post I’m reblogging states very clearly how where I stand as an atheist.

As I’ve said before, I do not  have a problem with anyone’s belief in any faith.  But let’s be clear, atheism is not itself a religion of any kind.  It is not a new fangled version of paganism.

Adam explains, in a far more eloquent way than I could, why this debate about atheism versus theism so frustrating for those of who don’t follow any faith.

Thank you, Adam!

http://aworldofpain.co.uk/happy-heathen/

Eat My Pussy – By Jessica B. Bell (Part One)

Okay, fair warning. This is NOT a family rated post.  NOT PG!

It’s racy, okay, maybe even lewd…and if you don’t know much about Canadian politics, probably won’t make any sense. But it’s bloody funny…if you get the reference.

NOTE:  There are two parts to the original post, so be sure click on Part Two when you reach the bottom end of Part One.

Living In America: Living With RapeCulture

I had to re-blog this. Gretchen Kelly article about the Rape Culture that is still very much alive, is thought-provoking, informative and very well written.

Edit:  The Rape Culture is not confined to the US, it’s actually a part of the human culture and is found in most, possibly even ALL human societies all over the world – to lesser and greater degrees – depending on a number a number of cultural, religious, socio-economic, class and geographical factors.

 

Drifting Through

“Me and a gun
and a man
On my back
But I haven’t seen Barbados
So I must get out of this
Yes I wore a slinky red thing
Does that mean I should spread
For you, your friends your father, Mr. Ed”

-Tori Amos, Me and A Gun

My daughter used to play a game when she was a baby. She would crawl over to our magazine rack and tear up the pages. When I would say something to stop her, she would cover her eyes. She thought, in her adorable baby brain, that if she covered her eyes we couldn’t see it therefore nothing was happening. We laughed each time she did this. We marveled at the simple naiveté of a small child. We thought it was precious. But you know what’s not precious? When adults do it. When we do it. When society does it. When we…

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Spam Followers

Spam Followers, they are truly a major pet peeve of mine.  In a word, I HATE them.

As of a couple days ago, I have two.  Neither has commented on anything I’ve posted or re-blogged.

Side Note: To be clear, I re-blog only posts that I personally think deserve to be as widely shared as possible.  They can be about causes I feel strongly about, or just find interesting and/or funny.  (Though there are also many other posts I would love to re-blog, but if I’m don’t restrain myself this would soon cease to even be my blog!) Also, I always do my best to obtain permission from the original poster, as well as add my own comments to ensure it is very clear that every piece I re-blog is NOT my work.

Now, back to my pet peeve about Spam Followers.  After the first one “joined” my list of Followers just a few weeks after I started this blog, I followed his link back to the source and discover he is part of a Pyramid scheme selling a “miracle health drink.”  Now in my country, Canada, this is illegal, so imagine my surprise after searching the  Support Pages for WordPress to find out that I can do NOTHING to get rid of this modern day snake oil salesman.

As he hasn’t even bothered to post a single word on my blog, or respond to my personal request that he stop following me, I can’t even find a way to mark him as Spam.  The truly sad part with this young fellow – IF what his lengthy bio states is true – is that he’s managed to rake in a good number of followers actually thanking him for following their blogs.  I actually read a few dozen of the replies, which made me both angry and sad.

Angry because he obviously used some kind of keywords spamming software to seek out and target bloggers like me.  Bloggers with serious, debilitating and life long diseases and other medical conditions, so he could prey on them.  I researched his so-called miracle product and in minutes was able to find plenty of medical articles proving the claims his site makes are sheer bogus.

Spammers like this don’t even bother to make the effort of seeking their prey and potential victims themselves.  No, they use spam bot software that targets the vulnerable.  When you are always sick and there is no known cure for whatever ails you, there are low times when you are feeling so low, desperate and discouraged, that it is all too easy to latch onto to anyone or anything, that promises to help.

And that’s what makes me sad.  Sad for those that in a moment of naiveté or vulnerability, they actually believe the people behind such spam actually cared enough to make a human connection.  Sad that said people are so focussed on making money, they don’t stop to think of those they might be hurting.

It’s offensive, hurtful and in a very real sense, abusive, to target people who are sick and vulnerable with false hopes all so you can make some money.  And here’s a newsflash, being chronically ill is bloody expensive!  Yet these types of spammers don’t give a damn if they manage to take money from one the already poorest demographics there is.  (Generally speaking.)

My most recent Spam Follower seems to have use the same route as the first did – Spam Bot Seeking Keywords software.  In his case, it appears he’s pushing his fitness routine.  I haven’t made any attempt to contact this one, but will say that on his site he actually appears to talk to people.  Whether that’s his customers only or not, I couldn’t say.

So, if they can Follow my blog with impunity, I see no reason I can’t can’t name them in my post and expose them for the cowards they truly are!

The first one, whom I call the Modern Day Snake Oil Salesman, is qkuafman and his blog is a WordPress one.  I find his to be the more offensive of the two simply because of all the posts on his “About” page from so many people thanking him for following their blog and not a single reply from him.

The second one is called fitnesfreak.  I had to Google this one as if he does have a WordPress blog, I can’t find it.  I will say his business appears to be legit.  To be honest, I didn’t look too deeply into his.

And that, folks, is one of my personal Pet Peeves!

103 People Unfriended Her, How Many Would Do the Same to Me

This is a wonderful post featured in Freshly Pressed. The author, Blog Woman, recounts her reactions to the story about a brave young woman who posted some honest pictures on Facebook showing exactly what breast cancer and the surgeries to save her life, have done to her body.

I read the original article and Blog Woman’s response to it. To me, both these woman are brave, beautiful and so very inspirational! Please, take a moment to read them. I promise, you won’t be sorry! 🙂

Blog Woman!!! - Life Uncategorized

I came across a Huffington post about a woman who posted pictures of herself on her Facebook wall that caused a collapse in her social circle.  The headline said “When Beth Posted These Images on Facebook, 103 People Unfriended Her”.   

The headline effectively grabbed my attention, but what the story really did was zero in on the heart of one of my own deepest fears.  It cut to a deep vulnerability that even I don’t fully understand, but it’s one that has held me back from engaging as fully in life as I possibly could.  I can’t do that until I can somehow get to a place of true peace about it.

Canvas ScarsThe pictures that Beth Whaanga, the woman in the Huffington piece, posted were semi-nude images of herself featuring her scars from a double mastectomy and a hysterectomy.  They were taken by a photographer leading a project called,

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Opinions. Everyone has One.

You know what they say about opinions right?

For the most part, I’m a huge believer in free speech and will defend anyone’s right to have their own opinions.

But you know what’s not alright?  Cramming YOUR opinion down other people’s throat.  Especially when you have no actual facts whatsoever to back up the ill-formed opinion you’re busy cramming down your target’s throat and regaling your loyal entourage with.

Lemme ‘splain,

From one standpoint, I am relieved to finally have a diagnosis.  But here’s the thing, I naively (apparently) thought that once I received it and let folks know, it would finally shut them up.  After all, how do you argue with scan results that show your brain closely resembles a slab of Swiss cheese?

And with not just one, but two neurologists who specialize in diagnosing and treating Multiple Sclerosis?

Well, apparently you can!

As it turns, I AM a lazy, whining, anti-social cow.  Or at least that’s what I’ve been told, repeatedly, by both portions of my family and that of my husband’s, acquaintances and even strangers.

Yes, leaving the workforce at the ripe old age of 32, was a well thought out career move.  Who needs a pension plan?  Eating cat food sounds in my golden years sounds like a great idea. Yummy!

I’ve had ever so much fun having my once busy work and personal life slowly shrink to almost nothing.  I love being in constant pain. I eat a bucket full of pills every day because I want to.  It’s a choice, really it is.

It’s been an absolute blast to watch my once spotless house transform into something you might see on an episode of Hoarders. I simply adore having to walk very slowly like a little old lady (at 44), eyes to ground, carefully scanning for stray pebbles or cracks in the concrete that might trip me up, resulting in yet another face plant or a cracked tail bone.  After all, who needs speed?  Don’t we all moan and whine about needing to slow down and smell the roses, so to speak?

Descending stairs without firm railings to hang onto?  No problem, sliding down them on my ass or back makes me feel like an Olympic athlete! Wheee…

And my absolute favourite thing of all?Having total strangers walk right up to me share their opinions with me!  And doing it loudly enough that the CSIS, the NSA or Paranoid Putin need not waste their resources trying to get intelligence on my latest nefarious plans.

Like I said, everyone has an opinion.

But if you’ve got any (more) opinions about me, my MS, or anything at all to do with my personal life – which includes my husband, our two daughters, and our pets – and it isn’t complimentary, then do me and the world, one small favour…KEEP THEM TO YOURSELF!

Go find yourself a life and stay out of everyone else’s business.